Enter the world of Self-awareness – or lack of it
“To know yourself, you must sacrifice the illusion that you already do.”
— Vironika Tugaleva
Self-awareness and relationship management are essential for success. Self-awareness is high in a large percentage of high performers. What is the connection? The human connection is often overlooked. Self-awareness promotes resilience, engagement, conflict resolution, and sound decision-making. The advantages of being self-aware include being aware of one’s own strengths and weaknesses, as well as unresolved life issues. The benefits of self-awareness will be highlighted and explored in this chapter. They include the ability to adapt and manage emotions, making decisions that are based on or aligned with your values, and maintaining business and personal relationships in order to be more fulfilled.
Business leaders who are self-aware can be more effective and efficient managers. They encourage and support others to excel in their areas of strength, which improves satisfaction, increases productivity, and has a positive impact on all aspects of life.
So, how do you increase your self-awareness and then turn that awareness into success?
1. Consider your options before reacting.
Emotions can run high in a variety of settings, including the workplace. Take the time to examine your emotions. Determine what triggered your emotions and be mindful when they rise in certain situations. Keep a journal to record your experiences and then review it on a regular basis to track any changes. Take a break if you feel yourself becoming emotional about something. Either step outside for a few moments, or take deep breaths and simply notice what you’re feeling in a detached manner.
2. Observe and experiment.
We can learn a lot by observing how other people interact. So, first, consider how you frequently respond and the reactions you receive. Are they favorable or unfavorable? Do your actions motivate or demotivate your employees? Do your words enthrall or lull investors to sleep? Then, observe how other people interact with one another to determine which behaviours and words seem to work best. Change up your phrases, body language, and responses and see what happens. By observing how others interact, you can then experiment on your own.
3. Request feedback.
Be open to feedback on your behavior from others, especially those close to you. When they offer advice, don’t get defensive; instead, consider what you can learn from their perspectives. In addition, solicit direct feedback from colleagues on how you perform in meetings or interact with others. Inquire, “What do I do well?” “How can I improve?”
4. Be a considerate listener.
Observing your reactions to others is part of being self-aware. So don’t just nod and gesture as if you’re paying attention. Instead, pay attention when someone else speaks, then pause and respond thoughtfully. The person must be heard, but by being self-aware, we can avoid shooting from the hip. Take a deep breath and then respond calmly.
5. Set behavioural goals.
Take an honest look at yourself and your actions, and set some goals as a result. Perhaps you want to be more helpful to others, ask better questions, or communicate more effectively. At the end of the day, assess how well you did in meeting these objectives. Consider your life to be an experiment in which you are attempting to improve yourself and collecting data on how well you are doing. Self-awareness is the process of learning about oneself, and it is something that we can all do.